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Apr. 8th, 2005 @ 06:23 am update & troubles
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caitilin:
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From:silverfairy2
Date:April 8th, 2005 07:37 pm (UTC)
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I hope you find some kind of balance in your life so you feel better and less stressed.
5. I suggest you pump for a minute or two (or however long it takes to make your milk come down) before you start to feed him. This way he won't have to work so hard for the first few swallows and he won't get angry (aka: pissed off!).
1. Do as much as you can and no more regarding the house for your in-laws. You have a new baby and work full-time. If they can't understand that then too bad. No need to get an anxiety attack over that. Probably your MIL will help you around the house for the week she is there(I sure hope so).
2. Don't worry about June until June and just try to find a sitter that you can TRUST with your child. Focus on the easy tasks first.
3. Maybe you will like the new person more than the one who is leaving and maybe she/he will be more helpful.
4. Figure out what HAS to be done and then both of you try to commit to a schedule that you each can handle. If you don't do it maybe he will step up to the plate and help change things. Don't overwhelm yourselves with too much stuff to do. Just do the essentials. Also, hiring someone to wash dishes or vacuum or mop, etc if you can afford it might be a good idea.
No matter what you are a GOOD mother and don't ever forget that. You aren't super mom and don't have to be. Do what you can and if things don't get done for a while then that is life. What is MOST important right now is taking advantage of this most precious time. Ian won't be this small forever and things will be different before you know. The way babies work is once you get a routine down and are comfortable they start growing up and doing more things requiring a different routine. They change too fast. Enjoy these moments and worry about housework later when things slow down. Do fall cleaning this year and who cares about spring cleaning.



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From:silverfairy2
Date:April 8th, 2005 07:41 pm (UTC)
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Also, I have PPD and you should probably seek help. They usually like to perscribe meds and Zoloft works well for most women. With no ill effect on the child for BF moms. I took it when I was BF my daughter and it helped a great deal. This time around (kinda scary, huh?) I am taking Paxil and it actually has increased my milk supply. That is one of its little known side effects.
I hope you feel better soon. Cry as much as you need to it helps, too! I wish I could cry sometimes.
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From:caitilin
Date:April 9th, 2005 12:23 am (UTC)
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oh gosh I don't need to increase my milk supply. I generally get 30 oz out of just 3 pumpings in a day. I have half a chest freezer that now ONLY has breastmilk. That is one of the few things that is going well.
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From:silverfairy2
Date:April 9th, 2005 12:30 am (UTC)
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That is awesome. I'm jealous!
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From:caitilin
Date:April 9th, 2005 01:32 am (UTC)
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yeah I feel like a real moo cow.

I saw an episode of CSI where some rich guy had a fetish thing about being a baby. He had his own adult size nursery and paid a woman to breastfeed him and give him bottles. He had a gallon of breastmilk in his stomach and a fridge full of 8 oz bottles of breastmilk. At the time I thought "who in teh world could pump that much milk?!" well a gallon is 64 oz and if I am getting 30 or so from 3 pumpings (realizing that quantity goes down as the day goes on) then there is the possibility I could pump that much in a day if I worked at it. That is just scary.

I keep kidding that Ian will be on brestmilk until he is 2 even if I ween him at 1